We did a 5 day camping trip over the long weekend (July 1st) with D's family and what a gorgeous weekend it was! I finally got some color, ate great food, slept fairly good and didn't get sick once!!! Woohoo. Got home on the Monday after telling my mom how good I was feeling and I jinxed myself and was barfing again!! So I have come to learn that to the few people who know and ask how I am feeling "Don't say good".
Yesterday (July 14th) was a rough day but I dealt with it. My husband got a random text message from an unknown person asking "Is it true that you are expecting?", he replied back with "who is this and where did you hear that from?". Then we figured out it was one of his hockey player friends and his wife heard it from another chick (her- see below).
This is the exact thing that went down on BBM:
Messages:
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Me: Are u telling people don and I are expecting when that might not even be true?
Me: I am not trying to be rude but if we were don't you think we would tell when we were ready and if we aren't that would be pretty sad to hear being how long we have wanted a baby.
Her: I'm not tell people that u are pregnant but u have to realize that people talk and that people do know that u went for IVF so they put two and two together. I truly am sorry that if someone told u that I out right said that u were pregnant that's not the case cause I don't know for sure.
Me: So does everyone think we did ivf because that's what you and zinger thought and just told people? We haven't been open about how far we are willing to try for a baby so for people to KNOW we did ivf wouldn't be correct. It would just be an assumption. I have my guard up right now about all of this so I am sorry for being this way but I just want to get everything straight.
Her: Well we heard u got IVF from someone else. We didn't make that up our selves.
Me: Ok I believe that but it doesn't make it true. I wish ivf was 100% so everyone can have babies, I wish we could be pregnant and announce without people thinking that, I wish no one had to deal with the pain of infertility, I wish you guys weren't dealing with this shit, I wish people didn't lose babies, gossip.....ok I could keep going but the fact is that people gossip hurts. And the fact that don got a random text asking if it was true if we were pregnant because you told there wife hurts. I hope one day we both have the oppurtunity to announce without anyone speculating on how it worked and to just be happy for us. I am done my rant... it might be pregnancy hormones or pms or just bitchy me. Sorry you got the brunt of it but most of what I have been hearing is coming from you guys so I just wanted to address the situation and forget about it. So I wish you guys the best in your journey of trying for number two and in the mean time enjoy the little miracle you have already because any child is a true miracle.
***********************************We have had issues with this couple before talking about us and I completely avoid them at all costs but it's tough during hockey season at the hockey games. She has a child already and the poor little girl gets no attention from her parents. The last thing was they took her to a wedding and showed her off for the first 30 minutes and after that they didn't have a clue where she was. Finally a few hours later someone find her sleeping on two chairs pulled together and lets the parents know (WTF!!?). They are now have problems having a second child... and from someone who has gone through infertility I am seriously not feeling bad for them. I feel like they should charish the child they have now first and then maybe they could conceive. They had an IUI done and she thought for sure the first time was going to work because she was pregnant before!! WTF are you an idiot? Do you not read about any of this?
She thought because we did IVF that putting two and two together that I am automatically pregnant!? GOD ARE YOU DUMB! And then there is people who go and read stacks of books, millions of internet sites about there infertility issues and might even know more than the doctors who still can't get pregnant... SO SAD!!
Ok I am done the rant! And I totally feel better! My hubby normally doesn't like when I spout off like that but he had no problem whatsoever with my Bbm conversation with her, YAY! Then we went for a long bike ride together and I felt 100% again.
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